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Watering Hole: Little Shifts Make Big Changes. 3 reasons why people don’t like change and what habits have to do with that.

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The Watering Hole is a virtual stopping space in the midst of our crazy, hectic, and wildly beautiful week to week lives, to breathe deep and take a drink at the well of the Lord.

Here’s today’s drink:

Are we just lying to ourselves?

In my last Sunday2Monday post, I said: “As long as we are thinking that this is a great series and something needed for the people of God but we are unwilling to put it into practice in our own lives, we will not enter into this rest.” 

I was talking about church. How often do we go and listen, think to ourselves that was a great message then check our mental “good job I attended church” box off the list and move on without doing anything with what we have heard?  Why is it so hard to put it into practice? I will tell you, but first I have a few things to say.

As a leader in the church, I believe it is my job to point to Jesus and say “He already paid it all. He already has given it to you. Just walk through the door!” I have seen a few people who have walked through and they have been rapidly renewed in Jesus becoming a whole new person seemingly overnight. But I don’t see that widespread. I see a lot of come in and go out as if the talking heads song lyrics, “same as I ever was” was on repeat. If we are not continually growing, we are most likely drifting and drifting is dangerous.

So why is it so hard? Change! Did you know that 20% of people will resist change no matter what, just try to change the coffee or go digital when we have always used paper in the past at your church.  You will see the uncomfortable face of change rear its head. Why?

3 reasons why people don’t like change

1.Change is not comfortable – I know. I moved 13 times before I was 14 years old. That is a lot of change. I couldn’t tell you how many times I started a new school in the middle of the school year. It was never comfortable trying to learn a new school and its ways. It was scary too! I use to think back on this time and dredge up those feeling of being uncomfortable and use it as an excuse to stay small, shrink back and not move forward with new things and new ways.  Now, I see how having a willingness to change makes me flexible and supportive of others when they need me to change how I do things so that as we grow we can be ready as a church to serve a lot more people then we use too.

 

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A willingness to change makes us flexible and supportive of others. –Tweet this!

2.Change takes effortI have to work at making changes in my life, it doesn’t just happen. God gives us grace. God gives the increase. We still have to plant the seed and water the ground. If you want to see that back corner of your yard turn into a garden with fruits and vegetables, you will have to hoe the ground, build the fence, clear the debris and do the work. Don’t forget to pluck the weeds. We have to be careful that we are not just punching our church attendance ticket and calling it good without any movement in our heart. We don’t want to be guilty of treating church like a TV program. It takes no effort, other than you turn it on, watch and move on. If we treat church this way. We may have a serious problem.

3.Change means change We can’t help that we will grow older. It will happen. Our bodies will get old. Change always does 1 thing: Change changes us! So what does that say about our habitual do nothing, let the years slide by attitude we have toward our spiritual life? Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, today, and forever. The only One who does not change is Jesus. In fact, we are to be becoming more and more like Jesus. The world chants to us to just “Be who you are!” but without Jesus, being who we are is a lesser copy of who we were created to become. Change means dying to self, living to serve, and making Jesus more important than our own agendas. This light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory! Lean in. 

 

Question of the Day: What change do you need in your life? And how can you make that change happen?

HABITS

Habits can serve you or deter you. Why do you think it is so hard to change something in your life? We live in habitual motions. We have routines built into our day whether we like routine or not. When a habitual movement gets broken then all the things connected to it also fall apart. It’s like a little saying I use “little shifts make big changes.” That is why change is scary and why people don’t do it. One little change messes with more than just what you think you’re changing.

 

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Little shifts make big changes. – Tweet this!

If you allow your inner self to be renewed day by day as you follow the Lord. CHANGE WILL HAPPEN. If you don’t. CHANGE WILL HAPPEN and you won’t like it and you may wake up one day and not recognize the self you drifted into.

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I have a habit that I have had for several years. I intentionally mess with my life. At certain points of the year, I reevaluate what is happening in my life. I explain this using the example of a Rubik cube, with each twist the colors come together or they don’t but it changes the whole cube. Each year I ask myself some great questions and when I see that something is not working or serving my life in Christ any longer, I twist the sides of the cube and do something different. I am not afraid to try something new. Why? Because I know the value and power a little change can have in life.

Are you willing to make the change needed so that you can enter the rest of God that our pastor has been talking about?  If so, start here:

  • Take a look at your habits
  • Take a look at your routines.

Gretchen Rubin has a great book called Better than Before, I read this book last summer.  I was working on a new habit in my life: walking.  Gretchen lays down some serious help in understanding how habits work and how they can hinder.

 

“A ‘routine’ is a string of habits, and a ‘ritual’ is a habit charged with transcendent meaning” – Gretchen Rubin

 

I don’t like walking just for walking’s sake. So I looked at my habits and routines. I found a little niche of time just after I dropped off my son at school and before I started work. I was wasting this time talking on the phone, surfing the web, or some other time snatcher. I put walking right in that space and I have had great success getting my steps in and because little shifts make big changes, I have also ramped up my mental energy level in the mornings. It is amazing the amount of stuff I am able to get done. Habits can become routines that serve our lives into well-being or they can lull us to sleep keeping us stuck in bad cycles.  Its time to be proactively growing in our spiritual life not just punching a ticket and calling it good.

 

Thanks for Listening,

Starla

 

 

EXTRA:

 

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Ok, so lets form a habit and put to action what Pastor Lynn said this past week:

“find out what brings you delight.”  I could get stuck in this!!

We get stuck in habits because whatever we think about grows. – Dr. Caroline Leaf

Use this photo or the hashtag #joyoutloud and start naming the beauty, joy, moments that take your breath away and enter into the joy the Lord has for us. Walk through the doorway of rest.

 

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