I came across a post on Facebook that I wanted to share. Not just because it was good…but because of the great comment on it from Tim Polk. I miss his encouragement. He was so wise and so very much loved Jesus. A few years ago Pastor Lynn showed us a diagram on Sunday morning. He said, “we have to flow from the inner circle and influence outward. Not the other way around.” He drew it like a scribble circle with a sharpie. So, I created the one below.
Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
When I look at this diagram and think of situation that I have been in throughout my life. These are my thoughts:
Do not allow crazy toxic people access to influence your inner circle. These are those who make shaming and guilting you a way to drive their agenda and get control of your life. They want to make “their way” your new god.
1. Take a deep breath: remember who you belong to. #Jesus How you feel is not who you are.
2. Boundaries: learn to say no to their overriding your free will and choose what you will and will not do.
3. Watch your interactions: Be an observer. Really see what is happening.
4. Take care of your reactions: Do not react emotionally to a toxic person. They will use it against you. Respond in love but be direct.
5. Build a safe circle: Process your emotions about this situation later with safe inner circle people. Not with crazy toxic people.
We all have areas of toxic – we must take care of our hearts.
Here is Tim Polk’s addition to this post:
He said, “I believe there is a picture of this diagram in Philippians 2” (this is from the NASB):
Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, 2 make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.Philippians 2:1-2
1. If therefore there is any encouragement in Christ – inner core, Jesus and you.
2. Any consolation of love – marriage and family.
3. Any fellowship of the Spirit – my brothers and sisters in Christ
4. If any affection and compassion – acquaintances.
The following verses in ch 2 go on to say, if my relationships are rightly aligned and energized at each level of the circle, there is an invitation to “make … joy complete” by being in agreement “being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.”
Good mind candy right there!
Thanks for listening,