Ever heard of a GOMO ! Check out the link to givemore.com

GoMo’s are people who are going through the motions

(I am so guilty here!! Sadly my heart is breaking. I thought I’d made it past this one, only to find here I am again…another layer deeper.

Isn’t that how God seems to work in hearts covered in a thousand layers of packaging like any good grandmother’s wrapping paper …

or how we cover our selves when the coldness of winter hits

–we dress in layers covering our cold and calloused hearts

Just when we think we have got it together…

deeper we go…..

He comes digging deeper…for our rubies and gold.)

-I know this is a long one and if you don’t want to read it all that is ok ..but I needed it.

A GoMo needs this according to that link….

More enthusiasm. Less cynicism.

More approachable. Less eggshells.

More patience and kindness. Less grumpiness.

More encouragement. Less withholding.

More listening. Less telling.

More time, effort, and care.

 

CYNICISM/CYNIC :

a person who distrusts people

any faultfinding critic

one who doubts the sincerity of all human motives except selfishness

Ever wonder “what people are up to?”

“what they are getting at?”

Do you see the “what’s missing” in a situation?

Are you “looking” for the problem? –is it in your weary heart

IF so you could fall into the category of CYNIC ….and while these things have there place. This cynical attitude can engulf you and make you hard, cold and seemingly uncaring. You could start to see everyone around you as trying to “ GET Something” from you. –or take something from you.

John 15:13

Greater love has no one than this,

that he lay down his life for his friends.

I have been learning how to move into this…Enthusiasm – it  is ACTIVE INTEREST …a sort of curiosity about people and situations. Letting Go of self interest –with all the me me me’s and the I I I’s

This can curb your “stuck up in your head, looking for the problems with everyone’s everything” and make you more fun to be around.( –makes ME more fun to be around)

EGGSHELLS

Walking of eggshells means :

to be very careful because they get angry or offended very easily.

This is a power-play. People who want to feel like they have it all together tend to make other people feel like this.

Its insecurity too…wanting to look like I know something , I‘m smart, I’m able…I have worth. Have you bit and eaten the lie like I have.

 

1 John 4:10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

It is virtually impossible to learn anything from anyone when you are this way.

I use to be really really bad at this… I’ve grown but still climbing.

Growing up thinking I was wrong all the time made me think that this is how you make others feel, to be right and strong

BEING APPROACHABLE means that you are open to what people are saying to you. Being careful yourself not to make people feel less then for sharing themselves with you. It’s a gift! Even if it hurts a little.

 

GRUMPINESS

an irritable or complaining person

Once this starts it can go on forever like creeping Charlie in your lawn. Your mind is your lawn and if you let irritation and complaining start…it will take over.

PATIENCE and KINDNESS go a long way.

The nagging tone, the sign of disapproval, the ranting and the raving…all which I have done. None have ever given me a feeling of satisfaction when I am through. Only regret that I wasn’t able to Love more in those moments.

Jude 1:16
These people are grumblers and faultfinders; they follow their own evil desires; they boast about themselves and flatter others for their own advantage.

OUCH…that tells the root of our issues!

“The spirit of complaint is born out of an unwillingness to trust God with today. Like the Israelites, it means you are spending your time looking back toward Egypt or wishing for the future all the while missing what God is doing right now.”
— Priscilla Shirer

WITHHOLDING

to refuse to grant, give, or allow

to hold back or restrain

I have done this all my life. I have left things unsaid when I was hurt, choosing to refuse to give into the hurt and I just walk on as if nothing happened.

But what it bears is anger, grudges, and a whole lot of unresolved issues….and hiding.

It really is better to just let YOU out of the box and let yourself be, feel and think. So you can grow instead of holding yourself back.  

Proverbs 24:26
An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.

So give this : ENCOURAGEMENT to others, when you do allow others to be themselves, you also get that from others. Reach out.

Scary YES!

worth it – TOTALLY!!

TELLING

to tell with our hearing

You can’t learn the lessons of life without hearing . We all like to be able to share and tell what we see, think, know. But we don’t like to listen when we are on the other side. Especially if we happen to be wrong, hurtful or sinning.

LISTENING on the other hand is to become willing to be wrong. Be willing to learn something new. Be willing to do things a new way.

A good friend can help you here. Finding one other person who you will let your guard down and listen to can help you grow tremendously.

More TIME, EFFORT and CARE

take the time to get out of the ruts

it will take effort to do it

but if you care, and I do — you will do the work.!!

THIS POST IS FOR ME!!!

If it helps you … I’m Glad!

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qaHmiFaX_pk

STARLA